So it turns out that the social services referral wasn’t a consequence of the crisis team visit.
Someone from school has reported us.
We met with the SENCO eight weeks ago to request an ed psych referral for Tom, who we believe has dyspraxia. While we were listing the symptoms we mentioned the fact that his self-esteem is suffering as a result of being ‘different’ and that he’d been hurting himself when upset by banging his head against the wall.
Someone has reported us because of that.
School policies haven’t been followed. I’ve looked it up. They should have informed us that they were making the referral. Not only did they not do that, but the referral was made anonymously so I don’t even know who it was. It could have been the SENCO. It could have been the designated safeguarding officer. It could have been anyone who saw the paperwork, from class teachers to admin assistants.
I feel like complete crap tonight. I thought school was on our side. Not any more.
They think my son is at risk.
They think that to the extent that they made the referral anonymously and without informing me, in direct contravention of their child protection policies.
Worst of all, I think my friends are on their side.
I tried to talk earlier and was told I don’t know the full story. How’s that for a damning indictment? That my very best friend is siding with the school rather than me…
How do I face the world again after this? Knowing that everyone thinks I’m an unfit mother to my children?
There is one solution that seems obvious. I’m struggling to put that out of my mind just now.