This year has been one I’ll never forget, for all the wrong reasons.
Its conclusion has made me reflect on everything that’s happened.
I thought that blogging my thoughts out would be cathartic, but I’m finding that I can’t even write about it today without crying. It just triggers so many memories and flashbacks.
Facebook is full of posts about 2016 being a new start but as much as I would love to believe that the 12 months ahead will see some sort of resolution to this whole hideous period of mental illness, I know nothing is going to change as the clock strikes midnight.
Tomorrow is just another day, followed by lots more another days.
I need to remember that throughout 2016. I need to take the year one day at a time. One hour at a time, if need be. I need to remind myself that even in the darkness of this year, there have been good times – and there will be again. I need to make sure I tell myself that when the negative thoughts are threatening to overwhelm me.
There have been silver linings.
Amazing friends.
A more open and honest relationship with Ian.
An increased sense of my enormous need for the Lord.
A lovely summer holiday.
New work opportunities.
And above all, I’ve survived. Despite how close I came, 2015 was not the year that claimed me.
I’d like to say that I’ve come through it stronger, but I’m not sure that’s true. I don’t feel strong in the slightest. But I do think I understand myself better. I think I’m a bit kinder to myself. I know when things get too much, I need to take time out. And I’ve been more honest about not being well.
I don’t want to put too much hope in the year ahead because I don’t know how it’s going to turn out. I do, though, hope that the ACT turns out to be the thing that helps me get better – properly better, stable better.
As it is, today I’m a bit of a mess, but I’m going with it. I’m pretty much overwhelmed with sadness, loneliness, regret and fear, but I’m just going to let myself feel it.
Tomorrow is another day.